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The Importance of Love in Marriage

January 30th, 2011 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Arranged Marriage



Everyone would say that marriage is the most fulfilling experience in life wherein someone you love cares for you every second of the day. However, for the people who think and believe that marriage is just another ordinary rite of passage; this could be the worst experience in their lives. But generally, marriage should never be taken for granted because it is a lifetime commitment. Although divorce is the easy way out, it is never the ultimate answer or solution to chaotic marriage. They only key to have a better married life is love and love alone. But there are ways to make married life light, easy and enjoyable. The following are simple tips to help marriage reach its fullness:

Marriage as a masterpiece of art

Art is being appreciated because of its rarity and uniqueness. The same is true with marriage. It is a lifetime commitment to the promise made with God as the witness. The fact that it is called marriage is because there is a very rare thing common between husband and wife–love. Without it, marriage is impossible as only those who are truly in love have the courage to bind themselves as one. Love is unique to every person and that’s what makes it the most precious possession on earth. Therefore, marriage is the output of the beauty of love.

Marriage is the key for self discovery

Love dwells in the abyss of ones personality. And only those persons who dedicate their life for the discovery of love can really discover their true self. However, everyone has his own vocation; therefore, everyone has different ways to discover love. There are those who dedicate their lives for the service of others, and there are those who want to be the servants of God in their own way. For sure, they can discover love the way they are destined to discover it. But for those whose vocation is married life, love can be discovered together with someone. Therefore, marriage is also the key to discover love which would lead to the discovery of oneself.

Marriage is Love-Centered

Marriage is no ordinary thing as it takes someone fully in love to engage is such lifetime bound. Marriage is a love-centered relationship. Husband and wife are not bound to each other but they are both bound in love. Without love, there is nothing that will hold them together forever. And that is the true essence of marriage, so let it be that way. No one could change it!

Having a happy marriage is what everyone couple desires. However, due to some circumstances, others may tend to fall easily, thus, resulting to divorce and destruction of family. There is always one thing to help troubled relationships–love. Do not let anger and pride ruin the future of your marriage. Let love make your relationship stronger.

Tags: Lifetime Commitment, Love Marriage, Precious Possession, Servants Of God, Witness

Looking For Marriage Annulment Records

January 24th, 2011 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Catholic Marriage



If, by any reasons, you are looking for marriage annulment records in your area or state, you should know that a simple Google search is not enough. This is because you can miss some important dates that are not recorded in the common marriage pages online.

You might need those dates for statistics, following trends or even for personal reasons. Whatever you do, start looking for marriage annulment records by simple online searches and after that get to some serious searching. You will need to pay some money for real, serious records, as usually they are provided by the authorities. The amount of money spent is nothing considering the valuable information that you might find. You should also know that there are several reasons for marriage annulments, so be sure to search using this filters.

Insufficient use of reason means that your spouse was not aware of the marital act, because of mental illness, insanity, or lack of consciousness. These dates are so hard so find as the government usually protects the persons in that cases. However, you could find some dates marriage annulment records by mental reasons, paying the necessary sum.

Another common reason for annulment records is ignorance about the nature of marriage. It is possible, although not common for a person not to be aware of what marriage means. Especially for foreign persons, they could not know that marriage is a permanent relationship and implies obligations. Although you might get different ideas with your spouse about sexual involvement and procreation, you should discuss them before the marriage. If you find about this later, you might ask for marriage annulment. If you are looking for those dates, you will have to know that there are no free records for that. You will have to pay for that, but the amount could be very low.

Error of a person is another annulment reason. If you and your spouse discover that a certain person possess or doesn’t possess certain quality, like a certain social status, marital status, religious conviction, arrest record or freedom from disease, you have the reason for imposing marriage annulment. However, this might be hard to prove, as the person accused might say that he or she told the spouse about the certain quality before the wedding. This is why those marriage annulment records can be hard to find, so you might have to pay a higher amount for those kinds of information.

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Tags: Consciousness, Google, Marital Act, Marriage, Marriage Annulment

Is an Arranged Marriage the Key to a Successful Marriage?

January 23rd, 2011 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Arranged Marriage



In India arranged marriages are still the norm. Interestingly enough, the divorce rate is 3% to 7%. Unlike the United States of America which has a divorce rate of 50%. That’s a big difference.

The news show 20/20 did a story on “The Science of Seduction: Why Him?, Why Her?” Biological Anthropologist Helen Fisher has researched this subject for numerous years. She conducted research with the help of her colleagues Arthur Aron and Lucy Brown.

Lovers were put into an MRI machine. Activity in the ventral tegmental part of the brain showed up when the lovers saw pictures of their partners. This was a revelation for Fisher. According to Fisher, “love is not an emotion but a mating device.” The ventral tegmental produces dopamine (stimulant) and sends it to the brain’s reward centers. These are centers for wanting, craving, motivation, focused attention and ecstasy.

Does this mean that sappy love songs and movies got it all wrong? According to the study conducted by Fisher, people fall into four categories: explorer, builder, negotiator, and director. People who were “matched” with their so-called “perfect mate did not have a long lasting relationship. One couple stayed together to find dating success; this was after the guy found another girl. There is no guarantee that you’ll fall in love even if you use a match maker.

The flip side to this study is arranged marriages which are stilled practiced in Indian cultures today. Ads are placed daily in many Indian newspapers by families who are looking for a husband for their daughter and a wife for their son.

One couple showcased in the 20/20 special married via an arranged marriage. The man was tired the “American” dating scene and contacted his family in New Dehli, India to find him a wife. Success! They found him one and they had a three day celebration. Does the Indian culture know something that we don’t?

A few things have changed with regards to arranged marriages: the rigid caste system is more relaxed and Indians may now marry outside of their own language and province. Families in India meet and get to know each other. They talk about their son or daughter’s past. Everything is revealed from habits to former addictions to their level of employment. Yes, it’s a background check!

India’s divorce rate is lower than the United States of America. Perhaps it’s the “getting to the point” of what they are looking for in a mate. There is none of this silly notion of a “knight in shining armor” coming to rescue them. So many women have been brought up with this concept throughout the years. Men and women know exactly what they are getting – no information is withheld from either party. No stone is left unturned!

Matrimonial classifieds can be found throughout India. Thanks to the internet, many of these agencies are online. With one click of the mouse, a husband or wife can be found. Odds are this is a marriage that will last.

There is something to be said of arranged marriages, honesty. Isn’t this a new idea? Before a bride and groom marry, all their cards are on the table. There’s no hiding of anything. After all, it would bring shame onto the family.

Americans in particular can learn from the Indian culture. It’s not a bad idea to be open and honest of what you are looking for in a relationship. Instead of stringing someone along, cut to the chase and tell what you’re looking for. People would save a lot of time, money, and tears.

The next time someone wants to fix you up on a date. Ask some questions about the man or woman. In fact, write down exactly what you’re looking for in a mate. Let family and friends know what you’re looking for. This will save you time and frustration in the long run. Not to mention hurt feelings.

Tags: Divorce Rate, Lucy Brown, Mri Machine, Negotiator, New Dehli India

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