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Swarovski crystals are the Austrian crystals

July 30th, 2011 by admin | Comments Off | Filed in Wedding

Swarovski crystals are the Austrian crystals that are precision abbreviate, faceted along machine abbreviating to afford crystals that additional foam. The glisten and dazzle of crystals attracts at you, entices you, “purchase me, accept me house, wear me”. Swarovski crystal hair appurtenances only afford you that glamour you require to create you appear that extra exclusive on your big day. While you have a day at the hairstylist you experience fantastic, it pretty much assures us that our hair is bad crucial to us, it creates us either experience beneficial or not. And so imagine on your wedding day.

Would you not experience like an actual princess whenever your hair was arranged nicely with the correctly accessories? While you make up your idea on whether you desire the casual merely tousled seek say a beach way wedding, or a smart conventional one with the hair completely swept up and exciting, apparently the wedding dress and where the occasion is going to be accommodated is a crucial circumstance as well. The beach is completely impractical and completely, even though the hair is going to have to be away your face differently it is going to be flying into your face whenever there is a picnic, unless you apply the Swarovski Winnipeg s crystal hair accessories, combs out or hairpins to still hold the tousled appear even though tidy.

The Catholic Church, Their Stance Against Contraception, HIV-Aids and Condom Use

July 20th, 2011 by admin | Comments Off | Filed in Catholic Marriage



It is widely known that the Catholic church is against contraception. In fact the Pope has made clear statements against the use of condoms, such as:

It is of great concern that the fabric of African life, its very source of hope and stability, is threatened by divorce, abortion, prostitution, human trafficking and a contraception mentality.

This article will argue that the negative implications of this position are far greater than the positive and that the Catholic church could do significant good in the world by advocating the use of condoms.

The negative implications of the Catholic stand against the use of contraceptives are evident around the world, but are especially marked in places such as South America and Africa. In countries where there is a high percentage of Catholics there is a greater tendency to give weight to Vatican decrees. This coincides with the fact that there are many developing countries with a high percentage of Catholics. Statements that prohibit or discourage the use of condoms (a barrier proved extremely effective against the spread of HIV and AIDS[1]) are therefore hugely detrimental to the fight against the spread of AIDS. Also disastrous are the statements made by the Vatican spreading misinformation about the effectiveness of condoms in preventing Aids. Catholic proposals to combat the spread of HIV focus on the promotion of abstinence and faithfulness; on first hearing an admirable teaching. It is also a teaching that fails on various levels.

Firstly, it is a teaching that fails because one cannot assume that just because a couple are married they are protected from HIV. In fact, married women in some of the southern African countries, particularly married adolescents (a common phenomenon in Africa), have a higher risk of being infected with HIV than unmarried women. In the all too common case that the husbands of these women are not faithful and themselves contract HIV, their wives – even if themselves entirely faithful, also become infected. Moreover it is not a safe assumption that a woman has any say in who she marries. Around the world women have been sold for cattle and betrothed in childhood or against their wills: It is therefore not always possible for women to choose a faithful husband, or even a husband who doesn’t have HIV. (Of course, even in western countries there is much infidelity in marriage).

Secondly, teaching abstinence and faithfulness whilst at the same time teaching that the use of condoms is sinful presumes that people are uniform in their acceptance of any teaching: This is evidently not the case. Many people will accept (whether as myth or belief), because of the teachings of the Catholic church, that they should not use a condom or that condoms will be ineffectual in preventing HIV infection but many of those same people will maintain an active sex life.

Thirdly, the Catholic stance against condom use has led to national legislation and local pressures against the provision of contraceptives, creating significant problems relating to family planning. It has also resulted in hardship for those struggling to obtain condoms and sex health information, and raises the risk of individuals having sex without them. The Catholic church has been a significant factor in the stance taken by the Polish government against the use of contraceptives. The United Nations states that in Poland

women have no access to affordable contraception.

Indeed the statistics for Poland show that only 49% of women ‘in union’ between the ages of 15 and 49 currently use contraception as compared to, say, the United Kingdom where the statistic for the same demographic is 84%. Even within the United Kingdom, an example of a nation dominated by Protestantism rather than Catholicism, the Catholic church retains an influence. This was demonstrated recently by the blocking (by Catholic leaders) of contraceptive advice for circa 30,000 Scottish schoolgirls. In short, the Vatican’s insistence that a combination of abstinence and faithfulness is a sufficient response to a global AIDS epidemic is clearly insufficient.

Why then is the Catholic church against the use of contraceptives? Does the bible actually forbid their use? The simple answer is no, the bible has very little to say on the use of contraception. It is Catholic dogma and not the bible that leads the Vatican to its current stance. One of the fundamental problems for the Catholic church stems from the fact that they suggest any method for controlling procreation at all (i.e. the rhythm method). This implies that the Catholic church accepts that the purpose of sex is not only for procreation: an idea that is clearly taught in the bible, which also shows sex to be for intimacy[2] and pleasure[3]. Whether it is the rhythm method or a condom surely the outcome is the same: That a couple have intercourse without having a child! To suggest, as the Vatican does, that the rhythm method is natural and condoms ‘unnatural’ is to allow dogma to get in the way of truth: You are “open to the transmission of life” in neither case. However, it is not the purpose of this article to debate the biblical basis for the position that the Catholic church takes. This debate has been carried out elsewhere, conclusively establishing that the bible does not forbid the use of contraceptives. A further point worthy of some debate, but also not looked at in depth in this article, is whether it is in fact wrong biblically (and when condoms allow us to avoid this) to deprive each other of sex for prolonged and regular periods (which is the reality of the rhythm method if there is to be any hope of avoiding a pregnancy before it is intended). We are taught not to deprive each other of sex except perhaps for a time for prayer[4].

The method proposed by the Catholic church as a solution to AIDS (abstinence and faithfulness) could be a great solution in different global circumstances and if people did not behave as in reality we know that they behave. Abstinence and faithfulness, although an admirable ideal, is not the answer: The Vatican must find an approach to the global AIDS epidemic that deals with the realities of the world. What then, could the Catholic church do? The simple answer is to publicly advocate in favour of condom use. Even if the Vatican were to support only organisations that were not involved in condom manufacture and distribution purely for profit, the benefits worldwide would be significant. There are organisations that distribute condoms for free in the developing nations, and even in western countries there are ethical companies from which it is possible to buy condoms online[5] that give large percentages of their profits to charity.

The Vatican advocating in favour of condoms would have two direct consequences.

One: That many more people around the world start using condoms. Individuals who currently struggle with the rhythm method of family planning would be freed of the worry inherent in that unreliable method, and the guilt brought about when they turn to other forms of contraception. Changes in government policies to allow and promote the use of contraceptives would surely lead to reduced HIV infection rates, as would the boost in stature and worldwide acceptance of condom use brought about by any public endorsement by the Vatican.

Two: The considerable good done by the many Catholic charities worldwide would not be hampered by a stance which runs contrary to much of the work that those organisations attempt, and in fact a stance which many Catholics do not agree with.

In short, the Catholic church has the power to do great good in the world by freeing itself from its fixation on a dogma that has caused much suffering. Without abandoning adherence to biblical truth the Catholic church could still support condom use and in so doing, significantly reduce the rates of HIV infection worldwide.

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Marriage Counseling Questions

July 19th, 2011 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Marriage Counseling

When times get tough in a marriage, it’s not as simple as simply saying “I quit”. The ramifications are deep, it’s not as easy as walking away from a girlfriend or a boyfriend. There are legal issues, kids, property to split up and so forth. Plus, the reason you got married in the first place was because of the fact that you wanted to build a relationship that would withstand the test of time. It’s not as easy as it sounds in the beginning though. People get bored, bills assault couples, people cheat and simply sometimes get frustrated because of issues that have built up for far too long. Rather than throw the marriage away, most people try to remedy the situation first. Often this calls for marriage counseling, but marriage counseling has to be appropriate for each situation for it to be effective or for it to work in a lasting way. So what types of questions should you ask before entering into marriage counseling or marriage therapy?

What issues are the most vital issues to each partner?

It’s not just about addressing the issues or even finding the issues, it’s about finding the most pressing issues first, prioritizing those issues and fixing and addressing them accordingly. By the time a couple gets to the point that they need marriage counseling, there is a lot of anger and emotion involved. It’s hard for a person involved to really see what the issues are. A marriage counselor can help to truly find, identify, prioritize and fix those problems. Once the bigger problems are out of the way, the smaller problems are easy to fix.

What steps are each spouse willing to take to fix the relationship?

It’s great, it truly is, to identify the problems so that you know what needs to be fixed, but it doesn’t matter if each partner isn’t willing to change to fix these issues. That’s often the toughest problem that a troubled couple will face. They blame and feel guilt and think they want to fix things, but are they really willing to change themselves to fix the relationship. Again, a marriage counselor can help point out what needs to be changed, but the spouses must be willing to take the steps to initiate lasting, effective change.

Will you be honest with yourself, with your partner, and put in the time necessary to fix the issues even if you’re willing to change?

Marriage counseling is not as simple as snapping a finger and restoring a marriage to its romantic, loving heights. There’s no magic wand or magic potion to drink. It takes help, time and effort to repair a damaged marriage. Even when you identify problems and truly are willing to change to fix them, it takes time for these changes to take effect and for the damage to be repaired. You have to be willing to hang in there, as you do in any marriage, and consciously work to fix the damaged relationship. It’s taken time for the marriage to fall apart and get to this point. It’s going to take time to fix it as well. Allow for and plan on spending a good deal of time to fix something as important as your marriage.

Are you willing to adapt and do you have a plan to fall back on?

One remedy for a problem as deep and difficult as a broken marriage likely spells disaster. You have to be flexible and be willing to change, especially if your initial plans aren’t working. Flexibility is key to any relationship but it is vital in a damaged relationship, because as you fix issues, other issues will naturally arise. There is no one road that leads to a perfect marriage. Even when you get past counseling you will need to be willing to adapt to the issues that arise and the needs of your partner.

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