Catholic Marriage Counseling – Tips to Fix Your Troubled Marriage Without Expensive Counseling!

April 12th, 2012 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Catholic Marriage



If your a devout Catholic, and your marriage is in turmoil you’re probably looking for Catholic Marriage Counseling that can help turn things around. You want to do this according to your religion, and don’t want to veer far away from your churches conditions.

Or maybe you just want to fix your marriage and get back to that happy place that you once were when you stood up in front of God and all of your loved ones and took an oath of “Til’ Death Do Us Part”.

This seems like a great oath when you’re in love at the altar, but it gets harder and harder to imagine as a bad marriage consumes your life.

Why Catholic Marriages Go Bad…

The truth is that Catholic marriages go bad for all the same reasons that any marriage goes bad. The reason is primarily that the two people involved in the marriage, you and your spouse, are growing a part in one way or another…or another, or another. I think you get the point.

Therefore Catholic Marriage counseling may or may not be the answer. The fact is that marriages are fixable, and you know this. You want to do the right thing for yourself, your spouse, and for everyone involved. Marriage is complicated and you have the chance to fix this one.

What to Do to Save Your Marriage, Even if Your Spouse Won’t Help…

Your marriage may have gotten to the point that mine had gotten to where I was the only one interested in repairing the marriage. This was because I was at my wits end and had to do something as soon as possible or else things would end, and I knew it.

My wife was so burnt out on trying and trying that she was done. She was in a “let’s see what happens sort of mindset”, but the truth is that this is a very dangerous mindset. If you want to fix your marriage then you have to actively do the things that will fix it.

One of the first things that you have to do, which is actually easier for you as a Catholic is to take divorce off of the table as an option. It’s basically a way to burn your bridges so that you’re not always looking at divorce as way out. You’re not looking at it at all.

Next you have to begin to improve on the one part of the marriage that YOU can improve on which is the only part that you can improve. That is your part. You need to begin to do the things that will create a better you…because you cannot change your spouse.

The Best Catholic Marriage Counseling in the World…

Ask God for help with saving your marriage…

You’ll need to probably pray and meditate on things because it will get tough. There will be times when you’ll want to quit and give up because the things that you do will seem to not work, but when you actively improve yourself, only good things can happen. Having God in your life is a great way to get through this which many people unfortunately don’t.

Your going to want to figure out and keep in mind why it’s so important to you to turn your marriage around. It’s probably the same reason that you’re seeking catholic marriage counseling now anyways. It may be because you truly love your spouse; it may be for your children; it may be simply because of the vow that you made in church the day that you were married by your Pastor. Whatever it is, keeping this deeply intrenched in your mind will go a long way in your success…

Tags: Bad Marriage, Imagine, Marriage Counseling, Marriage Help, Mindset

The Reality of Arranged Marriages

April 10th, 2012 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Arranged Marriage



Arranged marriages have been a topic of interest for centuries. Authors across the ages have explored this theme at length, and it still surfaces in literary works today. What’s the appeal? Is it the fascination with the lack of lust and desire we cultivate in North American society? We strive on the element of danger, of the forbidden, while an arranged marriage is usually a safe way to ensure a family’s approval of a union.

And yet, many of today’s romance novels deal with marriages of convenience. We’ve all read them: the heroine marries the hero because she needs him, whether for financial reasons, or because her children need a father — there are as many reasons to marry as there are novels dealing with this subject. Yet although the marriage isn’t initially based on love, there’s always that sensual tension simmering beneath the surface, and as readers, we know it’s inevitable that the two are going to fall deeply and irrevocably in love.

But what about real life, where things don’t always work out so well? Arranged marriages are commonplace in a number of countries, such as Iran, Iraq, Afghanistan, Japan and India. They’re more common than you’d think even in North America, where cultural diversity is cherished and encouraged.

Young people in countries where arranged marriages are commonplace are told from an early age that their spouse will be chosen for them. To deny an arranged marriage is seen as a sign of disrespect toward the family. But how are suitable spouses chosen? In Japan, for instance, “when a woman reaches the marriageable age of 25, she and her parents compile a packet of information about her, including a photograph of her in a kimono and descriptions of her family background, education, hobbies, accomplishments and interests. Her parents then inquire among their friends and acquaintances to see if anyone knows a man who would be a suitable husband for her” (the Asia Society’s Video Letter from Japan: My Family, 1988). Usually, the most important aspect of choosing a suitable spouse is the bond between the two families, rather than the relationship between the couple being married. Property or land with the aim of securing social status sometimes seals marriage agreements.

Do arranged marriages work? Opinions tend to differ. Statistics place the divorce rate for arranged marriages much lower than those in the United States, where marriages out of love are the rule. However, research also shows that the pressure a married couple encounters from both society as a whole, and from the respective families, suggests that divorce is often not an option.

Can love grow out of an arranged marriage? Absolutely, and in the same way that love can grow in romance novels from a marriage of convenience. But there’s more to love than finding a suitable match. Love can grow for many reasons, from lust at first sight to friendship that develops over a long period of time. It’s impossible to predict whether a union will be successful. The only two people who can make it work are the bride and groom, the hero and heroine of their own story.

Tags: Acquaintances, Fascination, Photograph, Safe Way, Surfaces

Arranged Marriages – Are They For Real?

April 6th, 2012 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Arranged Marriage



Arranged marriages are often unheard of at this day and age when men and women are free to make a lot of choices including the person they want to spend their lives with. However, arranged marriages are traditions that still exist in Asian countries and other parts of the world.

An arranged marriage is one where either the bride or groom or both do not have a choice as to their future spouse as it is their parents who selects their future spouses for them. Some Americans would think that arranged marriages occurred only during the Elizabethan era but the practice is still alive even at this time and age.

The custom of arranging marriages is common in Asia particularly among Indians and Muslims. There are also other Asian tribes that still follow this tradition. There are arranged marriages where the bride and groom were promised to each other when they were still young so they know what to expect. However, there are also those who are complete strangers at the time of the wedding.

India

The low divorce rate in India has been attributed to the practice of arranged marriages but it does not mean that more couples in India are happily married. This tradition of arranging marriages is so prevalent in India that at least 95 percent of Indian marriages are said to have been arranged. There are several factors considered by Indian parents when choosing a spouse for their children. Among these are caste and social status. While the dowry system has been prohibited in India, it is still a considerable factor in arranged marriages.

Elizabethan era

Arranged marriages were the norm during the Elizabethan era considering that feminism has not yet been born and women were very subservient to their parents and their men. Women during that time agreed to whatever marriage plans their parents have for them. They were brought up believing that men are superior and the women inferior. Among the most common reasons for arranged marriages during this era are money and social status.

Jolo, Philippines

Arranged marriages are still popular among Muslims in the Philippines and in other countries. A Muslim man can choose his bride provided he (including his family) can raise the bride-wealth. Otherwise, he might be rejected by the bride’s family. However, a lot of Muslim men and women who have obtained higher education no longer favor the practice of arranged marriages.

American women are luckier because they can choose whoever it is they want to spend their lives with. Arranged marriages have never gained traction in America because of the people’s liberality and penchant for freedom, including the freedom to choose one’s bride or groom.

Tags: Dowry System, Feminism, Marriage, Norm, Several Factors

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